Do you want to know the meaning of awkward? Well for me it’s having to deal with the spouses of people who I know don’t like me and I don’t like them. Getting married brings with it certain challenges that have to be dealt with and spouses of other people being at the wedding is one of them. For me it’s very important to not let anything ruin my big day. In order to have this be the case there has to be a compromise somewhere.
How to deal with the spouses of people who you know don’t like you is the question we want to address. Well we have some pretty good ideas of how this can be done.
Take to your spouse and let them know what’s going on
One thing that makes things even more awkward at a wedding is when your spouse seems to be oblivious to certain people not being particularly fond of you. It can be friends of theirs, certain family or the spouses of either your guests or the other partner’s guests.
You have to make it clear to them that someone has an issue with you so that they can be proactive. In the case that it’s somebody on their side, they can take measures to address any issues in order to avoid awkwardness on your wedding day.
Speak to the guest that has the spouse who doesn’t like you
Keep in mind that at the end of the day we’re still talking about your wedding. The number one way to ensure someone isn’t going to show out at your wedding is to speak to the guest responsible for them. You want to make sure you tell them to control the behavior of that person.
It’s much easier to put this in the guests’ hands that have the problematic spouse and be sure to let them know there’s an issue so they can address it.
Try to be cordial, but minimize contact if you can
The best way to deal with the spouses of guests at your wedding who may take issue with you is to simply minimize interaction with them. It’s your big day and you should be stress free. Heck, you could even decide to tell a guest you do want to come that their spouse can’t come unless they show the proper respect when there.
Seeing as how it’s your wedding day you want to focus on the pleasant, and that would be the person you’re about to tie the knot with. Guests that are problematic in any way, especially if it’s a spouse of theirs shouldn’t be tolerated at all. In fact we would advise having a short leash when it comes to any hint of disrespect by any guests. They either behave or they get told to leave.
We know that people don’t want to focus on any negativity when it comes to their wedding day, but any potential issues that threaten to spoil your big day do have to be addressed. The spouses of guests that truly didn’t like one or both of the people being married can cause all sorts of issues.
It could be that they feel someone isn’t good enough or they had a problem in the past that they haven’t worked out. In either case, your big day should be filled with good energy, not negative energy.
This means that spouses of guests and guests in general will have to show a certain level of decorum at your wedding. Any issues they have with either the bride or the groom should be put to the side in respect for both parties.
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Beth picked out a Chicago wedding venue that she was sure would have more than enough room to sit a large number of guests. She had already made out the guest list and she looked it over and felt comfortable with it. Everything was set to go until the dreaded phone calls started coming in making point of something that often gets overlooked. What are we talking about here? We’re talking about someone who is already invited wanting to bring along someone else.
Now at first this might not seem like a big problem, if you’ve planned everything to the tee, then this can present a huge problem. In Beth’s case, she wanted her guests to be happy; buy bringing people who weren’t invited was just something she couldn’t allow. So she ended up saying no. That’s the end of it right? No it isn’t. There was a domino effect. The guest that Beth told she couldn’t bring someone last minute for said if the plus one couldn’t come, then they themselves wouldn’t be able to come.
It would be so easy for Beth to simply not care in this case, but what happens when several guests start pulling this? “Is it okay if I bring someone else?” The answer to this might be yes as long as ample room is still available for them in the Chicago wedding venue that you’ve chosen. What happens though when they start expecting you to shoulder some or all of the costs though? The answer would be heck no.
No matter how much you might want someone to be at your wedding, when they decide they want to have a plus one and on top of this they expect you to shoulder some or all of the costs, then it’s a no go. In Beth’s case, even though it was her big day she still felt so guilty about not doing everything she could in order to accommodate guests. Someone should’ve told Beth the following:
Beth may want guests to be happy, but in the end she still has to consider that it’s her and her groom’s big day. Bring plus ones, in case the plus one someone both the bride and groom are okay with should be a no go.
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